Mindful loving often boils down to Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowance . 3. Love is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling

You cannot truly ask someone to "love me" without practicing self-love . Writing letters to yourself or practicing unconditional self-compassion creates the blueprint for how you want to be treated by others.

Sometimes, the best way to love someone is simply to be present . This involves: